The Hard Truth We Must Face

Vanessa R. Virgil
Mar 12
3 min read

Many of us want to believe that following God means gaining recognition, titles, or a place of comfort within the church walls. We often chase after these things, hoping they will prove our faith or worthiness. Yet, the hard truth is that God’s command is far simpler and more demanding than this. He calls us to love one another as He has loved us (John 13:34–35). This love is the true mark of discipleship, not our gifts, eloquence, or visibility.

This post explores why we struggle to obey this command, how we can recognize when we fall short, and what it means to truly live out God’s call in everyday life.

Why We Avoid What God Commands

It is uncomfortable to admit, but many believers avoid the clear commands of God. Instead, we seek safety and approval within familiar religious settings. This behavior often comes from fear, pride, or misunderstanding of what God requires.

Fear of vulnerability: Loving others deeply means opening ourselves to pain, rejection, or sacrifice. It is easier to stay within the church’s four walls where we feel protected.
Desire for recognition: We want to be seen as gifted or important, so we focus on titles or roles rather than humble service.
Misplaced priorities: We sometimes confuse religious activity with true obedience, thinking that attending services or volunteering is enough.

The prophet Micah reminds us what God truly desires: “to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God” (Micah 6:8). This means our faith must be active, practical, and rooted in love.

The True Mark of Discipleship

Jesus gave a new commandment to His followers: to love one another as He loved us. This love is not a vague feeling but a deliberate choice to act in kindness, patience, and sacrifice. It is the identifying mark of true discipleship.

Not about gifts or eloquence: Spiritual gifts or speaking skills do not prove our faith. Many gifted people fail to love genuinely.
Not about visibility: Being seen in church or religious events does not guarantee obedience. True love often happens quietly and without applause.
About action: Loving others means meeting needs, forgiving offenses, and standing for justice.

This love reflects God’s character and draws others to Him. When we love as Jesus loved, we show the world what it means to follow Him.

Personal Struggles and Growth

Many believers, including myself, have struggled with this truth. I once sought comfort and recognition within church walls, avoiding the harder calls of love outside those walls. It took trials and challenges to realize that God’s command is not optional or easy.

Facing discomfort: Loving others can mean confronting injustice, forgiving deep wounds, or giving when it hurts.
Learning humility: True love requires setting aside pride and selfish desires.
Growing through trials: Difficult experiences refine our faith and teach us to rely on God’s strength.

This process is not quick or painless, but it leads to genuine transformation.

Practical Ways to Live Out God’s Command

Loving one another as Jesus loved is a daily choice. Here are some practical steps to help live this truth:

Listen actively: Pay attention to the needs and struggles of those around you without judgment.
Serve quietly: Look for opportunities to help others without seeking recognition.
Practice forgiveness: Let go of grudges and offer grace, even when it is difficult.
Stand for justice: Speak up for those who cannot defend themselves.
Walk humbly: Remember that love is a gift from God, not a personal achievement.

These actions build a faith that is visible through love, not titles or platforms.

The Challenge Ahead

The hard truth is that many of us must change how we live our faith. We must stop chasing approval and start obeying God’s command to love. This is not easy, but it is the path Jesus calls us to follow.

By embracing this truth, we become true disciples. Our lives will reflect God’s love in ways that transform communities and bring hope to the world.